As our generation becomes more mature, it’s impossible not to notice how self-centered and selfish we’ve become. This sudden increase is being attributed to the saying, “you don’t owe anyone anything,” which has led people to lack common decency and is often accompanied by rudeness.
The phrase started out to help individuals set boundaries. People pleasers are people who prioritize others over themselves; this can lead to a lack of identity and self worth and can eventually cause burnout. There’s a difference between being selfish for no reason and putting yourself first to protect your peace.
One new mindset is the attempt to appear nonchalant. Nonchalant is defined by Oxford Languages as, “(of a person or manner) feeling or appearing casually calm and relaxed; not displaying anxiety, interest, or enthusiasm.” In the past year teens have made it a trend to look like they don’t care about almost everything. What’s the point?
On another note, people don’t value their friendships as much as they should as a result of this recent downgrade. There is an uprising in the desire to have “low maintenance friends,” an idea that sprouted around 2024, leading friendships to grow distant and not get the connection we need. These types of friendships could work between the right people, but should not be the expectation in all platonic relationships.
A word that comes to mind when I think about this topic is entitlement. It’s often shown through someone who thinks they automatically deserve treatment, praise and privilege. To curb this sense, take accountability for your actions and show appreciation for the people around you.
An anonymous student mentions how finding friends who care is eye-opening; they report, “I forgot how good it feels to have people show you that they care.” This is just the beginning of the joy that can be found in meaningful friendships. Having a good friend can completely change your attitude towards how you treat others.
This newfound sense of ego and deservingness is leading people to lack empathy and self-awareness. Make plans with friends, hold the door open for each other and tell someone you care about them. Sooner or later this uprising will cause another epidemic, one of loneliness.
